The Downside of Early Success Patterns Early in life, you’re rewarded for certain ways of being.They become “winning strategies.” Like: Always have the answers Do it all yourself Be perfect Stay liked Your developing brain thinks:These strategies work.Let’s find more ways to use

What You Avoid Is Information What you avoid, delay, or resent reveals everything about you. It’s easy to focus on what’s visible: Sales and Financials Marketing results Team dynamics Client feedback But your real leverage is hidden. Hidden in what you’re avoiding, delaying,

Insight Over Intensity When we don’t get what we want, we usually push harder. More effort. More hours. More pressure. But the answer isn’t intensity, it’s insight. Force doesn’t create freedom. It traps you in the same level of consciousness that created the

Your Energy Sets the Tone Your energy sets the tone for: How clients perceive you How problems get solved How your team makes decisions How your business runs without you When your energy contracts, your team notices your urgency, anxiety, and need for

Knowing Isn’t the Problem. Being Is. Your next breakthrough starts with who you’re willing to become. Most founders know what to do. They know they need to: raise prices. scale with systems. hire better, not faster. step out of delivery and lead. Knowing

What Buffering Looks Like in Business Buffering is what you do to avoid facing what you’re afraid of. Eating when you’re not hungry Shopping for things you don’t need Pouring another glass (or two) of wine Scrolling on LinkedIn, comparing yourself You justify

Circumstances Don’t Cause Feelings For over a decade, I thought my feelings about my business just happened.They felt inevitable, given the circumstances. After all: Customers cancelled ordersEmployees made mistakesSoftware wouldn’t workDeliverables were lateProspects didn’t signNumbers were down So of course I felt:OverwhelmedFrustratedStressedIrritatedAnxiousTired But

The Exhaustion of Constantly Fixing Yourself Constantly trying to “fix” yourself is exhausting. Fix your business, and relationships struggle.Repair relationships, your health suffers.Address health, and finances tank. When life is a perpetual to-do list of things that aren’t good enough, you can’t relax.You’re

The Real Reason You’re Frustrated You think you’re frustrated because things aren’t working.But you’re actually frustrated because you’re fighting reality. “Revenue shouldn’t be down.”“The client shouldn’t have cancelled.”“The team shouldn’t have missed the deadline.” Each thought like this wastes your energy.You’re trying to