There are times in your life when you know exactly what to do.  You see the path, make the decisions and take the actions. There are other seasons when you feel the pull of something new, but it’s not fully developed yet.  Part of you wants to rush the process, turn it into a plan,

I spent a lot of my life trying to fix myself. I read books, went to seminars, joined groups, met with therapists, and hired coaches.  And I learned a lot. But the most interesting thing I’m learning now is there’s nothing wrong with me. I’m not fundamentally flawed. And neither are you. You Aren’t a

Being nice is not the same as being kind. Kindness is about what serves the other person.  Niceness is about managing how you’re perceived. It took me a long time to understand the difference. It’s easier to treat people with kindness when you treat yourself that way, too. But achievers like us are not always

You don’t get extra credit for suffering. For being stressed, exhausted, and frustrated because you do too much. You’re doing things other people could do. Even doing things you don’t do particularly well. You tell yourself there’s no choice. But there is. There’s always a way to redesign your role to play to your strengths.

I never thought of myself as irresponsible. It felt like I carried the weight of the world on my shoulders. After all, I was responsible for finding new business, making money, keeping employees busy and customers happy. Every day was an obstacle course. Prospects wouldn’t commit. Systems didn’t work. People didn’t perform. Customers changed their

I never liked the term “people pleaser” because it sounds like a weakness and I was glad I didn’t have it. But I’ve recently had a sobering realization.  I’m an approval seeker. And it’s the same thing, just a different name. I’ve enrolled my dog, Atlas, in a sport called Rally. Together we navigate a