Action used to be my middle name. If there was a problem in my business, I wanted to do something about it right away.  Fix the system. Call the client. Talk to the employee. Change the process. Hire the consultant.  And action does

For years, I gave my team War and Peace instructions in fortune-cookie form. A whole novel of context got reduced to something like, “Let’s use the same approach as the LAMCO project, but simplify the client meetings and don’t let the scope creep.” Then I’d

Last week I was frustrated with my tomatoes. Ten weeks of nurturing and only a few tiny green tomatoes to show for it. I thought I did everything right: good soil, plenty of sun, water and fertilizer. But the leaves at the bottom

There are times in your life when you know exactly what to do.  You see the path, make the decisions and take the actions. There are other seasons when you feel the pull of something new, but it’s not fully developed yet.  Part

I spent a lot of my life trying to fix myself. I read books, went to seminars, joined groups, met with therapists, and hired coaches.  And I learned a lot. But the most interesting thing I’m learning now is there’s nothing wrong with

Being nice is not the same as being kind. Kindness is about what serves the other person.  Niceness is about managing how you’re perceived. It took me a long time to understand the difference. It’s easier to treat people with kindness when you

You don’t get extra credit for suffering. For being stressed, exhausted, and frustrated because you do too much. You’re doing things other people could do. Even doing things you don’t do particularly well. You tell yourself there’s no choice. But there is. There’s

I never thought of myself as irresponsible. It felt like I carried the weight of the world on my shoulders. After all, I was responsible for finding new business, making money, keeping employees busy and customers happy. Every day was an obstacle course.

I never liked the term “people pleaser” because it sounds like a weakness and I was glad I didn’t have it. But I’ve recently had a sobering realization.  I’m an approval seeker. And it’s the same thing, just a different name. I’ve enrolled